7 Things to Remember When Trying to Accomplish Your Goals

Accomplish your goals this year - AVintageJoy

I'm a firm believer in having a plan. In my opinion, if you don't have a plan you're planning to fail. Making goals for yourself is a wonderful way to make sure you keep moving forward. Keeping your goals in mind is what helps you on those days where it's not so easy and it starts to feel like the sky is falling. It's important to keep some aspects in mind when thinking about your goals. Below are a few that I use on a consistent basis when life tries to get me dow. 

1// Remember that if you have a setback, the best timing is sometimes not your timing. I know this sounds super anti what i just said, but it's true. When you're trying so hard and you feel like you're not making any traction remember that many times, the best timing isn't ours. Think back over the goals you have set yourself in the past, did all of those come to fruition in the exact time you wanted them to? If you're answer is yes, more power to you!! I know in my own life setting goals keeps me focused on them, but having the mindset that it is going to take a lot of work and time keeps me motivated.

2// Remember that you have to put your goals in the oven not the microwave. What does that mean? I'll tell ya. Many times with our goals we want to put them in the microwave click thirty seconds and have the result, but it doesn't work like that. When you study very accomplished people, more often than not, they spent years working towards their larger goals before they got to see their goals be a reality. You have to put your goals in the "oven." You start with a plan, work towards that plan checking on it and making sure it isn't burning, adjusting the temperature if necessary and then you get to the finished product. 

3// Honesty time! Many times the reason that we don't accomplish our goals is that we don't put in the work. You have to work towards your goals with an honest mindset. We are all humans, shocker I know!! If you're working towards your goals and you feel like it's taking forever, how serious are you about those goals? Do you wake up and focus on them, or are they in the back of your mind. We all have the same amount of time in the day, we do with it what we feel is important. If you really want to watch that show or cook that meal you find the time to do those things. Are you making time for your goals each day?

4// We need to have a "why not me?" attitude. There are so many wonderful people in the world who are working towards their goals every day. They're getting up and trying to make it happen. Don't sell yourself short. If you have an idea for a project or a product and someone doesn't feel that it's worth it...take a step back, evaluate, and if you still love it, try again! I read that the guy who wanted to make LA LA LAND spent something like 10 years trying to make that movie a reality. He worked so hard at it that eventually someone listened. Same with Hugh Jackman and The Greatest Showman. He spent years trying to get that from a passion project to "the big screen."

5// On that same note, we don't reevaluate. Those in your life that know you very well and have  strong relationship with you should look over your project, in my opinion. Those people can give you a true honest answer, because they know you and love you. Maybe they have an idea that you haven't thought of yet that would take your project to the next level. Maybe they can give you insight that you wouldn't have seen because you're so involved already in the project or goal. 

6// Set steps along the way. If your goals seem too big, break them down into small section. Give yourself something that you can do now. If you want to move to another country you can start with looking into who has done it. What did they do? How does a visa work for that country? Start saving 2% of every paycheck and put it into another account so that you have the money to move all of your things. Do you know anyone who lives in that country? Smaller steps help you move towards the goal without feeling overwhelmed.

7// Lastly, give yourself grace. When we make a goal, sometimes that goal changes and evolves and that's ok. To use the above goal, if you start with wanting to move to another country and eventually you realize that you really love where you live, that's totally ok! You've learned from your goal. You've grown as a person, and then you set another goal. Always keep learning!! It's so good for you as a person and it keeps your mind sharp! 


Why I Never Make a New Year's Resolution

Don't Make a New Year's Resolution - AVintageJoy

At the beginning of last year I did a post called "My Not Goals for 2017" and I still fully believe what I wrote. I personally don't make New Years resolutions. With the way my brain works, as soon as I forget a day of "no gluten January" or "I'll workout every Monday/Wednesday/Friday" then I get discouraged and end up not doing the resolution in its entirety. 

I find that if I have goals based upon the month where I can accomplish the goal at any time during that month I'm much more successful with my goals. It allows me that freedom to do them when I can.

In 2018 there is something I want to do though. I want to be more generous this year than I have ever been before. More generous with my belongings, with my time, and with my talents. Here's why I think you should do that this year too.

I remember a time last year that I was so stressed out. I was working all of the time, I felt like I was bairly sleeping due to the stress, and the sleep I was getting was spent dreaming about work. Yeah I know right! Why is working following me into my sleep?! During that time I had the opportunity to volunteer. Although I felt that I had no time, I for some reason said yes. What I wasn't expecting to happen was those tow-three hours that I spend volunteering with those kids cleared my mind in a way that hadn't happened for months. I wasn't focused on myself, I got out of my head and focused on someone elses needs. 

The next day I went back to work more relaxed than I would have been had I not spend the previous day with those kids. I felt rejuvenated. I will give you a quick warning though... don't volunteer to feel better about yourself, because honestly if that's why you're being generous, you're not really being generous, you're being selfish.

But take a serious step back and rethink your strategy for this year. Remember, in a not morbid way, that you're only on this earth for so long. What do you want to spend your time and money on? I want to spend this next year remembering that "my things" and "my time" really isn't my time at all. What do I really own? If I'm being honest with myself, everything I have is really just rented and is a gift. I want to "regift" in the best way possible. I want to spend my money helping others and lifting them up, I want to spend my time as wisely as possible. I want to be generous. So many people see themselves as a generous person, but how generous are we really being in our day to day lives? 

That's my "not goal" for 2018. I want to live this year as generous as I can be. It will be hard to start because I'm so use to thinking "my things" are my own, but I'll get there! One step at a time.

Who's with me?! 


My Best Purchases of the Year!

My Best Buys of 2017 - AVintageJoy

Throughout the year I somehow purchase so many little and sometimes big things. However, there are always things that really stand out as items I'm so glad I purchased, or items that I find myself using more than others. Here's my list of favorites from this past year.

1// A white bed comforter. I had been wanting one for years but never brought myself to purchasing one, and I'm regretting not purchasing it sooner. I'm obsessed with my white bed. I was walking around in TJMAXX, as you do, and all of a sudden I found the perfect white comforter. I've read multiple studies about how a white bed helps you sleep better and that's what finally made me break down and buy the comforter. I really do feel like it helps me have a more sound sleep.

2// My living room rug. I had been looking for living room rug for so long. I wanted a rug that was a good neutral that would work for all seasons and looked purposeful all times of the year. It's white as well, no not everything in my house is white just these two things, but it works for everything. From being a neutral in the spring, to feeling cozy and keeping my feet warm in the fall and winter, I'm so in love with my white rug.

3// Lip primer from MAC. I mentioned this in my winter essentials post, but it really is one of the best beauty items I acquired this year. I was searching for almost a lip balm to put under my matte lips that moisturized but didn’t change my matte lips into a satin lip. There were so many I tried that would work, but turned my lipstick into a satin instead of keeping them a warm matte that I was looking for. MAC was a Godsend! 

4// Jane Iredale Longest Lash mascara. I actually got this one as a gift, but I'm almost at the point where I need a new mascara, and I'm definitely purchasing this one! Because it was a gift I didn't realize it was suppose to help your eyelashes grow. One day I was looking into the mirror and I thought to myself "are my eyelashes longer?" Yes!! Yes they are. It's really worked for me.

5// A classic and quality winter jacket! I would also suggest one that is more of a neutral so that it lasts years! Mine is a black longer trench from Zara and it's my go to when it's cold outside! My favorite part is that it works for every occasion. I can wear it to work over my suit to work, or I can pair it with a sweater and jeans! 

6// LUSH R&B hair moisturizer. The sticker price, depending on how much you're looking for, can be a little surprising, but in my opinion it's worth it. In the summer and spring when my hair tries to get frizzy, it helps calm my hair down, and during the winter when my hair tries to dry out, it adds the moisture my hair needs! 

7// Tickets to experiences! One of my favorite aspects of life is travel! Anytime I'm in Florida I have..have to go to Disney! My last time back however, I was planning on not going to Disney. I couldn't make it the week without purchasing a ticket. It was so much fun. I hadn't been on the new Pandora ride, and it was going to be the only time I would get to see the castle lit up for Christmas. It was worth it! #treatyoself.

Also in the Summer there is a renaissance festival I really wanted to go to. I started to doubt myself, but I decided to ignore those doubts and went anyways with a friend and it was amazing! I had so much fun walking around exploring, and felt like I was in a video game the entire time! I wrote a post about the festival here! 

So many great aspects of 2017 and so many lessons learned. Spend your money and time on things that improve your life and the life of others! Excited and waiting for what 2018 brings. 


Christmas Gift Guide

Make sure this year that your gifts have a personal touch to each one of them!

I'm a little...ok a lot obsessed with Christmas. I believe it's the most magical time of the year filled with such wonder that even the sky chimes in and brings some extra ambiance. However, the hardest part of Christmas is trying to find out what gifts to buy for people. 

The best gifts are those that people can tell you spent time on, that you remembered their favorite of something or thought that this items can help their lives in someway. Who doesn't want to be that reminder for their friends and family that they've been thinking about them and looking for a present that "looks like them." For me, that's personally one of may favorite things, when someone gives me a present and says "I saw it and it looked like you so I had to buy it!" 

Here are a few of my favorite things...to buy for friends and family.

An Adult Onesie. To start off your gift exchange, bring a fun element of surprise by putting a fun adult size onesie in there. I find onesies such fun whimsical addition to a cold winter night. They really do keep you warm, but also keep you in good spirits. How can you not be laughing when wearing a onesie. Even the thought of someone angry in a onesie makes me laugh. 

Wonder Woman the movie on dvd or blue ray! I love this movie so much, I feel like it has a wonderful message to it, and it's directed by a woman. We need more female directors, show some love! 

A coffee grinder. Give the gift of happiness, aka fresh coffee. They will think of you each morning and be so grateful during those times that they accidentally purchase the whole been coffee as opposed to the ground coffee bags.

A bathtub caddy. After a long day working hard, pampering yourself shouldn't feel complicated. Give your loved one the peace of mind that you've already got it covered. I will say I would probably put some bath bombs with the caddy so they can start off the "bathtub caddy experience" on the right foot. Also, if they don't know you're getting them a caddy, they may not realize what to do with it, lol.

A Sleep Mask. When you're on a long flight all you want to do is sleep at some point during the flight, but that's the exact time that someone around you wants to read. A sleep mask feels a little funny to put on until you're sleeping soundly and then you're so grateful to have that mask! Perfect for the person who's always on a plane to somewhere.

A Figurine. If you have any friends or family in your life that are a little nerdy, this is so perfect! I personally have a few pop figurines on my bookshelf and I feel like it adds so much character, see what I did there, to the bookshelf. You could pick something from their favorite video game, comic book character, tv show, you name it! You could also take this another way and purchase a jewelry item that they can wear that reminds them of their favorite ____. I've seen so many delicate looking necklaces or bracelets that have a W for wonder woman. 

Two Tickets to Something. This could be a concert, show, event, cooking class, you name it. Something that they can look forward to that you will be doing together. On Christmas day they will be receiving so many items why not give them the gift of an experience that you'll share together. 

A Subscription to a monthly box. There are so many monthly options out there from food, to nerdy things, to makeup, to clothing. Have your Christmas present last all year by purchasing a monthly subscription for someone. That way they feel the Christmas spirit all year and they also think of you every time they open a box. This is great for the loved one who is far away!

The best presents I've ever gotten have been ones that I could tell thought went into. It's hard when life goes so fast, but what can you do this year to add something a little more personalized to your gifts?


Visiting A German Christmas Market

A German Market Downtown Denver, who knew! What a great way to spend a December night!

Christmas markets bring out the Christmas spirit in all of us. Walking around a fairy light filled market, drinking a hot beverage and listening to the holiday songs is such a wonderful way to spend a December evening. One of my goals this moth was to visit the German Christmas Village that's in downtown Denver, called the Christkindl Market. 

The market is built specifically for the Holiday season. Open every day from November 17th through December 23rd. It's located on 16th street which is a pedestrian walkway; save yourself the headache and don't try to turn down the street when you're making your way to the market. There is a 16th street shuttle you can use that only drives up and down the street, so you don't have to worry too much about your parking. You can street park on an adjacent street, or you can park in a nearby parking garage. If you're staying in downtown, walking may even be the best way to get to the market. You'll have the opportunity to see all the lights on the trees and those ice skating near the clocktower. I personally suggest going to the market at night although it opens at 11am. I feel like the Holiday spirit is much more alive during that time, and the lights sparkle even brighter! 

The market has pastries, bratwurst, candied nuts, hot apple cider, and many other food options, but I still ate before so I could focus on the hot cholcolate and mulled wine. I had never tried the very highly anticipated mulled wine before, but it did not disappoint! It was so good. I could definitely see how this wine can be dangerous, it's that good. When you purchase the wine you also get a cute mug to commemorate your visit. 

Have you ever tried Mulled Wine? The German Market is definitely the place to try it!

The above picture is from inside the tent that has the wine, they do only take cash so be sure to bring some with you. Outside there are booths all around selling so many different types of holiday items. There was one booth that had homemade hats and scarves, one that had small figurines, but my favorites are always the ones that have food. The only down side is that all of the places that had food were cash only and I always forget that fact until I'm already there. Boo the atm fee, but it was worth it! 

 Do you have a Christmas Market in your area? I've been obsessed with looking around at all of the Christmas Market posts I've been seeing. Good friends, and good times had by all! Now I just need to go to a Christmas Tree farm and snag some garland to hang around the house! I'm a little behind on that, but it's a work in progress! 

Our group may have stayed all the way through until closing time. It was just so perfect out we couldn't bring ourselves to leave. The below pictures is the exact same place as the first but at the end of the night vs. the beginning. Thank God for warm beverages around this time of year!

German Market Downtown Denver! - AVintageJoy

My Cold Weather Essentials

My Cold Weather Essentials - AVintageJoy

Having cold weather or winter essentials is a must around this time of year. The past few days the temperature has dropped significantly! It went from like 70 degrees to 31 degrees. My winter nature kicked into full gear and it makes me so happy. I've pulled out all of my home winter essentials and think you should too. It honestly doesn't matter what the weather is like where you live, it's that time of year, embrace it!! 

1// A cozy blanket over the couch. I have to have a cozy blanket near me, if I'm going to be sitting on the couch for a long period of time. Even if it's hot outside I need to have a blanket on the couch. It adds such an element of a cozy home. 

2// A go to candle to light every night. In general I love for my home to have a scent, but when it's cold outside it's even more important. I never did this back in the day, but since I've been more consistent with lighting my candles it's so nice to walk into a room and it smell like cookies, or autumn, or buttercream. It's the easiest way to add another layer of comfort to your home. 

3// All of the Lotion. It gets so cold in the winter that I end up keeping a small lotion in my purse for the moment in the coffee shop that you realize your skin is dry. I think part of it is genetics: I remember in the winter my dad's hands would always get so dry. He works outside with his hands so he would always have such rough hands in the Ohio winters. But the other part is truly just this time of year and the havoc it tries to put on our skin. Bonus: Make sure you're also putting a little bit of a heavier moisturizer on too. Protect your face! 

4// Lip balm/ exfoliate your lips. Every morning when you're finishing up your makeup don't forget to exfoliate your lips. It's something that many women tend to forget, but it really does help your lips stay healthy this time of year. Add a simple lip balm or lip primer before applying your lipstick to ensure your lips stay moisturized throughout the day!

5// When the weather changes or goes back and forth from 70 degree weather to 31 degrees everyone around gets sick. I am a firm believer and advocate for Airborne/Emergency. Especially the gummy version, I'll take the other kinds if I have to but I would so much rather trick myself into thinking the gummy ones are candy.

6// A flavored creamer. It's such a small luxury to give yourself but it's so rewarding. I really love hazelnut around this time of year. I tried to do the pepermint creamer thing, but hazelnut is still the winner in my book. 

7// Nail polish. My nails are pretty strong, but when it's so cold out they can't help but become breakable. Protect your nails by keeping at least a coat of clear on them. My favorite colors for fall or winter are dark red or plum. I love the darker colors this time of year. Plus by having your nail painted you look that much more put together. 

8// Fairy lights! I love having lights up around my living room windows. It's different house to house, but I suggest buying all white lights. This way if you like them you can keep them up, and if you don't want them all year, at least they'll blend in as much as possible with the blinds or curtains. 

9// A Holiday movie to watch. Spread the Christmas cheer and invite friends over for a movie night! There are so many great ones out there, and so many horrible ones too. All equally as fun to watch around this time of year. Need some ideas of movie to watch? A few of my favorites are: White Christmas, The Holiday, Elf, and How the Grinch Stole Christmas

What are your tips and tricks for the cold weather months?


December Goals (10 in 30)

December Goals - AVintageJoy

It's that time!! I'm so ready for this season. All of the downtown trees have lights on them, people are wearing their boots and beanies, and the coffee is always hot! December goals are one of my favorite set of goals to make each year because everything is cozy and I get to spend time looking for presents for those I love. Also, I have an entire month of remembering who's birthday it is and the reason for the season! 

1// Buy cozy socks!! I really want to get the ones that have the grip on the bottom.

2// Go to the local German Village. Every year there’s a small village that they put up that apparently has wonderful mulled wine and I want to try it!

3// Purchase all of my presents at least a week before Christmas. This year more than the others this is an important one, because some of them I need to ship and I don’t want to be waiting in a huge line to do so.

4// Set myself a Christmas Present Budget and stick with it. Another plus to purchasing my present beforehand is that I’ll have the time to sit and think through what to get each person, creating a more personal gift and saving money!

5// Start thinking about apartments. I’m not 100% sure if I’m going to release where I’m at or if I need to start looking for another place to live once my lease is up. I want to start creating a game plan for either scenario

6// See the Nutcracker, or another show. It’s such a fun holiday thing to do, and a great reason to have a fun night out.

7// Try two Pinterest baking recipes. I really love pinning all of the beautiful creations on Pinterest but I rarely ever try them out. There’s no better time than the holidays to try a few!

8// Break in my new leather jacket. I recently purchased a brown moto jacket and I love it! However, it still feels like I just bought it. I need to wear it in so that it feels like my jacket.

9// Watch at least fifteen Christmas Movies! It doesn't matter if it's a classic, made for tv, or Netflix Christmas movie, I want to watch it! Some are so worth it, and some just make me laugh. Do you have a "must watch" Christmas movie? Mine is definitely White Christmas! 

10// Enjoy this month! I get to spend time with my family and show them around my new city during the most magical time of the year!